Monthly Archives: May 2012

My “Worth It” List

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In my recent days, I’ve been struggling a lot with money. Since a very young age, I’ve been rather self sufficient. I would babysit, work for my parents, anything to make my OWN money. I tried my damnedest not to ask to borrow money, I wanted to prove that I could support myself. When I turned sixteen, I went out and got a minimum wage job at McDonalds, and worked forty hours a week all through high school. Shockingly, nothing has changed, except its college now.

For the past two years, I’ve worked two jobs, averaging between sixty and ninety hours a week during any and all breaks I’ve had from school. I pay for as many of my own things as possible, even if that means credit cards (which I have completely paid off!). I will pay back every single cent of my student loans on my own accord. You know, I wouldn’t trade a thing about this insane work habit I have, even if it does mean that on weekend nights, I’m working until one or two in the morning while my friends are all out having fun. It means I’ve learned the value of a dollar, and it has instilled a work ethic in me that I am beyond proud of.

That being said, prices of EVERYTHING, literally everything, are sky-rocketing. Leading to me doing a lot of staying in, although most of the time I’m working anyways. But still, there are a few things in the world that I will find a way to budget, no matter what. And thus, I have compiled my “worth it” list. These five items are the five things that I need to exist. Now, yes, of course, there are many more. But these are more of my personal indulgences if you will.

  1. LITERATURE: I’m a book worm. I love to read. And just because the economy is absurd and gas is averaging four dollars a gallon, I’m not about to quit my reading habit. I’d rather be outside in a cardboard box with a good book than indoors with nothing but a television set. And since I have a Nook, its even easier than one would think to get cheap or free books. Win!
  2. COFFEE: Try as I might, I can’t kick the addiction. I know caffeine is unhealthy. I know I consume much more than I should. I know, I know, I know. But that hot, black liquid is what keeps me same. And I know it is extremely expensive, but hey, if that’s my vice, let me have it for God’s sake. After all, at least its calorie-less.
  3. LIVE MUSIC: I know, this seems strange. But really, there is nothing better than music, except for live music. And if nothing else, one live concert a year would be enough to hold me over. But the feeling you get standing there in a sundress and boots singing along with your favorite country artist, or rapping right along with one of your hip hop idols, its breath-taking, life-changing, unforgettable and priceless.
  4. PEDICURES: I hate feet. They are the ugliest, most disgusting body part on any human being. So, of course, I appreciate anything that makes them appear just the slightest bit more attractive. I like them. I’m a simple girl, I’d go everywhere without make up on, and I spend less time getting ready than any one of my girlfriends, but regardless, I would sacrifice meals for a week if it meant I could budget this 45 minutes of pampering into my life.
  5. GUACAMOLE: I don’t even think words can do this substance justice. Guacamole is literally my favorite food ever, hands down. I could live on it, and I do my best to try. Avocados are expensive. Its a time-consuming dish to prepare. It isn’t all that filling, and although it is healthy, it lacks a lot of essential nutrients. But I DO NOT CARE. I will, no matter how much it might cost, find a way to finance my guac addiction.

There are a million other things, such as my sorority, gym membership, et cetera that I spend a lot of money on, but wouldn’t gibe up for the life of me. But these five, they are my guilty pleasures. My escapes from everything else. My presents to myself. My “Worth It” list. And here’s one of my famous Dortin Tips — if you’re feeling down about your work week grind, and wishing you could escape the everyday work schedule we all loathe, write your own “worth it” list. It really puts it all into perspective and makes every single one of those 14 hour days worth it.

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We’re Goin’ to the Chapel and We’re Gonna Get Married

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Most early marriages fail primarily because of emotional immaturity and limited life experience. Science plays a role too.

“In our 20s, sometimes we don’t have a strong sense of who we are as an individual,” said Elaine Spencer-Carver, a social-work professor at the University of Missouri-Kansas City.

Young couples may have the chemistry but often lack the history that sustains unions.

“Younger people are more apt to go into marriage with the expectation that the other person is going to fulfill them,” said Peg Donley, a licensed marital therapist in Prairie Village, Kan. “Older people are probably a little more seasoned, more realistic.”

An excerpt, ladies and gentlemen, from an article recently published in the Chicago Tribune.  Also found within the article are a few very interesting statistics, such as nearly 50% of marriages result in divorce, and, the one of particular importance in this blog post is the following: 60% of couples married between the ages of 20 and 25 divorce.

Now that we’ve all read that, and I’m sure we all knew that already, can someone tell me exactly why everyone in our age demographic is running of to get hitched? Here’s something to ponder. I bet that if you really love someone, you can wait, because whether you’re twenty or ninety, you’ll be together. And you shouldn’t need a ring to make that known.

Now, in my twenty years, I’ve had a few relationships — none of which I would have EVER considered marriage with. And its not because I wasn’t happy, believe me. But we’re just too young. I don’t know who I am yet, hell, I don’t even have a boyfriend and my peers are out getting married? How is this even real?

In the next five years, my focuses are on finishing school and starting a successful career. Not tying the knot, not putting someone else before myself, just on getting myself sorted out. And don’t you think marriages would be better off if all of this bookkeeping was taken care of before we jumped into what is supposed to be a life-long, sacred commitment?

I remember being a little girl, laying in bed after my daddy read me a bedtime story and asking him, as every little girl does, to marry me. And then I remember his very typical, fatherly response: “Oh, sweetie, we can’t do that because I love your mommy. But one day, you’ll find a man who loves you just as much to marry you, when you’re thirty.” Now, I know my daddy was joking, of course. But, really, what is so wrong with taking that advice we’ve all been given by overprotective parents?

Why, if you are supposed to merge your life with another individual, for better or for worse, in sickness and in health, TIL DEATH DO US PART, would we need to rush into that with someone we’ve barely gotten to know? Well, I for one, won’t be marrying at a young age. And yes, the majority of that stems simply from the fact that I haven’t even a prospective groom. But even if I did, if I’m going to get myself a ball and chain, I’ll be damned if I fall into that failed marriage category.

The End of an Era — The Beginning of a New One

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Well, its here. With all the hoping, wishing, countdowns, anticipation, believing it would never happen — Summer 2012 has finally arrived. Now, don’t get me wrong, I am beyond thrilled. But also, it brings about a bittersweet end of an era. 

I will never again take a science class, be a pharmacy major, or even so much as use a calculator whilst I am a college student at Ohio Northern University. Now this, is the happiest thing that has ever happened, because after two years, I finally get to do everything I could have possibly wanted to. I just wish it hadn’t taken so damn long for me to figure out what I wanted.

But this is just one of the many things that has ended as my time as an underclassman at ONU has dwindled away. Along with this, my big graduated, something I am infinitely proud of her for, my little decided to transfer, and although she will always be mine, she won’t be at school with me anymore, thus this ends the era of my immediate Delta Zeta family. Now yes, I have a network of fantastic sisters and close family, each of which I love with my whole heart, so that’s what makes it so bittersweet.

Aside from changing my major, my sophomore year of school brought about a lot of other firsts. I went to Canada for my first and second times, and had a blast both times. I formed friendships so strong that nothing can tear them apart, even stupid three month breaks that make me long for Friday nights in Ada. I started blogging. I learned a lot about who I was and who I wasn’t, and I think I truly am happy with where I am right now, although there is always room for improvement.

A lot of other things have happened — things I’m not going to talk about because, quite frankly, I don’t want to type out my life story. But anyways, here we are. At the beginning of Summer 2012, which I’m determined to make the best one yet, with the predominant theme of self improvement.

I’ve done pretty well so far. I’ve spent the majority of my time either at the gym or at work, and I must say. I’m excited to see what these three months have in store for me, and I really can’t wait to head back to ONU in the fall, completely the person I want to be.

So, here goes, y’all. Here’s to checking things off my bucket list, loving my life and self-improvement. Here’s to being happy with who I am, and becoming one hundred percent the person I want to be. Most importantly, here’s to Summer 2012!